Divorce is painful-unhappy marriage are wrose .It will be tough enough to make a life with another person if you pick the right person.Don't start married life with two strikes against the two of you.You can avoid this irreversible error.Try the following tips . Before you marry,think long and hard what marriage means to you .Why are you getting married?To eliminate a deficit in your existence (for example,loneliness)or to enjoy life more fully by sharing it with someone else?The latter is a healthier reason. What explicit expectations do you have for a spouse?Are there any behaviors you insist upon?What kind of relationship are you hoping for?Discuss the answers to these questions with your future spouse. Over a period of weeks discuss the expectations both of you have for marriage.Decide what's really important ageLOC Me,resolve any differences,and negotiate to the point where you can willingly buy into cach other's expectations before you tie the knot. Marry based on compatibility,caring ,and common values ageLOC me,Slight adjustment in these areas may be possible,but don't hope for ,or expect,major changes. Do you like everything about the way your future spouse has treated you before you decide to get married?If not,remember:it won't get any better after the ceremony. What do you enjoy more-the things you do for your prospective spouse or the things that he or she does for you?The future looks right for the two of you if you each respond to this question by saying,"The things I do for her(him)." Can you say with confidence that you are looking forward to growing old with this person?