What’s the different between Chinese and Western dating culture? Actually I’m not very clear about it.I ‘m curious to know more about different culture and before I was dating with a CBC, so l asked some language exchange ‘s people to know more about that. An American girl said the dating frequency is once a week, A CBC boy said once every two weeks because he and his girlfriend lives in different city. A New Zealand man dating once a week in first half year, he would date more after half year, because the relationship is stable. He said he might date twice or three times a week or even live together with his girlfriend.(and he said hk girls are more sticky, keep calling him ask the same question such as do you back home tonight? What will you do tonight?) In that case,It ‘s so weird to discover that Chinese ‘s dating is quite the other way. So, what ‘s the HK couple’s dating? HK people always think that dating twice or three times in first few months is normal, we call it is ‘’honey moon’’. After few months it may be once a week. According my past experience dating with two hk guys(ex-boyfriends),they were eager to meet three times a week in the first few months. I think dating once a week is okay if he is busy. I can even accept once fortnight if he lets me know that he is really busy at work or he wants more free time. It’s rarely to hear about dating once every three weeks or a month. (I heard of my friend and they broke up very quickly.)I think they ‘re not very into each other. If it talks about the dating attitude, western believe in individualism, they seems like more freedom and think about himself/ herself more(actually every one think themselves more.. ). Chinese believe in an adjustment period between couples. An adjustment period may be short or long depends on different people, friend A always have fighting with his boyfriend for first two years, of course She sometimes wanted to give up. But luckily they tried to make adjustment themselves ,later they get along better and are planning to get married. Friend B ‘s adjustment period was first three years(always fighting and broke up once time), they were dating for eight years and then get married. They know each other well and live happily at the present. To conclude, Chinese always think that it’s not easy to find the one you love, they are more cherish the relationship and try to make adjustment themselves. (An American girl told me that)Western are more likely to find someone suitable for himself/herself, they seems give up the relationship easily and keep seeing someone or searching someone who is better fit for him/her. And that’s why Chinese are not easily to get divorced and their attachment to family very seriously. **Some Chinese wiser women told me that Couples always have to swallow themselves’ pride 50% for each other so that they can get along well. It’s really truth, indeed. How about the hang out style? I saw website it mentions Western man like seeing someone and would date some girls at the same time until he gets into relationship with a girl. However, Chinese man can’t do that, if they do it, we call it ‘s’’casting net’’. It ‘s not welcome by HK girls who think the man are not sincere and playful and bad guy and…so on…haha.. Western’s hang out style is always very casual, they don’t like planning stuff even go travel. And less tell girlfriend wherever he goes. In Chinese, Hk guys seems always tell girlfriend where he went and what he did. Some men don’t like that but some men like to give girlfriend safety feeling, or some girlfriend request boyfriend to do it. It’s really different style. (I don’t like to request people to do that thing actually.) Othe other hand,HK couples like planning especially travel. May be we are affected by HK ‘s education. We have to plan and make a good arrangement in many aspects. Though it has many different culture or style between Chinese and Western, my friend get along with her Italian boyfriend well and sweet. So, discrepancy is not really a big thing and love is more important! Every one need to swallow themselves’ pride for each other so that they can get along well.
